Sunday, August 09, 2015

The post about my very best diet advice

My friend posted on social media her discouragement about not being able to handle doing a diet at this point in her life due to her legitimately hectic and strained time/resources.

In came all the well-meaning diet advice: Try this eating plan, Do these exercises, Get a fitbit, Wake up earlier, Cook healthy meals a month in advance, etc etc etc. 

Oh bother. I'm sure no one was TRYING to add guilt and unrealistic expectations to the already full plate of a hard working, wonderful, kind, diligent, widowed mother of four. But despite good intentions they probably did. I'm sure I've done it plenty of times before. 

This post is what I wanted to tell her, so I sent her a message,  but I thought maybe someone else might need the reminder too.

 My very best diet advice (from a fellow mother of four)

My suggestion is to NOT stress about tackling a diet/ health plan right now. Yep. Stop. 

If you don't have time/energy, you don't have it and it's okay. Yes, better health is a worthy goal. I know everyone says "There's never a good time, you just have to decide to do it anyway!" but that's not entirely true. You know yourself, you might have more immediate concerns right now. So fine, take care of those like you already are. Do your thing!😉 Chances are you already know principles of good health, it's not like you will sabotage yourself because of misinformation. And then there's always the issue that weight is SO impacted by dozens of other aspects of the mind/body that it's difficult and potentially aimless to target that one sliver of a piece of our general well being. You can improve your health in myriads of other ways, it doesn't always HAVE to be a diet.

 I really believe To Everything There Is A Season (Turn, turn, were thinking of that song, weren't you? It's amazing, I know. I'm like a mind reader.)  
It's like when God created the earth, and at the end of each day He said that "it was good." We (maybe just me?) have the habit of looking at unfinished things and pointing out all that is missing, but God recognized the important matters at hand and the proper order of things, and truthfully declares it to be good, long before it's complete. He knows it will continue to get better, and He's not going to dwell on the lack of trees and fish when the matter at hand is whether or not the land and sea are divided. Everything in it's place over an allotted period. Line upon line, precept upon precept. 
So what about when it IS time to do more? I think the best plan is to realistically think about your desire to improve your health and try to narrow your efforts to a specific way you can be working on it now, with what is available to you at the moment. You probably already have little zings of inspiration throughout the day, start with those. Personally I find prayer to be a helpful reality check, and a good way to receive specific inspiration that's anchored in love and encouragement instead of guilt and nitpicking. Go figure God being nicer to me than I am to myself.  In my experience, when it's actually the right thing to focus on, you will be given the means to make small positive steps in the right direction. 

"By small and simple things are great things brought to pass."  <---- TRUE STORY.  The All or Nothing mentality is the lie.

Okay so that was a long rant. I just recognize the sentiment, and wanted to send some support. You are doing just fine, don't guilt yourself that you're not doing everything all at once, you are doing plenty as I suspect you already know. 

So, cliff-notes version:

Worthwhile desires= Yay! 

Crippling, discouraging guilt over not being there right this second= Boo, hiss! 

Do what you can, and what you feel good about, one day at a time, forget the rest. 😊

Saturday, November 15, 2014

Hill Country in Sri Lanka


Hi guys, we interrupt this blog of family memories and random thoughts to bring you... my New Testament homework. Did I tell you I'm in school again? Yes, it's a bit hectic and I'm barely surviving it, but onward and upward!

For my assignment, I had to read Acts 12 and compare the two main characters: Herod and Peter. Here's the handy chart I made:

Herod the King
Peter the Prophet
What motivated him?
He acted to please himself, and to please other men, as evidenced by how he killed James, and then because the Jews liked it, he decided to try to kill Peter also.
He was motivated by a desire to do right, and to do the will of God. He was humble, and submissive to the Lord’s will, and steadfast in following it.
How did he deal with others?
Violently. He killed those that displeased him, and was very prideful in dealings with others.
He was kind, and loving. He served and healed others. Upon being instructed to go to the gentiles, he was faithful and opened the gospel to them, wholeheartedly.
How did God deal with him?
He was smitten by disease and died.
He was delivered out of the hands of Herod, miraculously by an angel. He was given the keys to ministrations in the Lord’s work, and extended mercy and forgiveness in his weaknesses.

Moral of the story: Be like Peter, not Herod. When your "friends" think it's cool that you did something awful, like kill an apostle in Herod's case, don't be a goofball and respond with, "Oh you liked that? well watch this!" It's not a good road to travel, you don't want to end up at that diseased and decomposing destination.  Meanwhile, Peter was awesome! He handled hard things with humility and grace, and still had time to help people all along the way.  

Herod, Bad. Peter, good.
Peter, yes. Herod, No. 
Got it? 

Thursday, August 14, 2014

Safari at Yala National Park

I think Sri Lanka is like 6 vacations in 1! We were in the jungle, mountains, hills, agricultural, ancient ruins, and now on a Safari that made me feel like we were at a game park in Africa. 
Our fantastic guide/driver told us before we planned the trip that this Yala National Park would be the place to go! He was right, we all loved it, and were glad we went economically the rest of the time so we could go there. It amounted to $207 total for all 7 of us to go, and it was the splurge of the trip (beside Perahera... Another story) so that gives you an idea about how frugal you can be in Sri Lanka while having a stellar time!

Monday, August 11, 2014


Jason and I got a beautiful 5 day getaway when he went to a conference in Greece. The hotel was paid for, so I just booked a cheap ticket and joined him. I love that so many destinations I never dreamt of visiting are so easily accesible from Dubai! 

We had a great trip, and the kids had a blast at hime with a nanny. 

I went exploring and got a souvineir haircut while Jason was conferencing :)


We also had an all day stop over in Istanbul so we went exploring. Two trips in one!

Kandy in pictures

Happiness does not depend on what happens outside of you, but on what happens inside of you.

Harold B. Lee